What is Counselling?
Counselling provides a safe space to talk about your problems, without fear of judgement. The counselling process is driven by you, the client, and we only work on the difficulties you feel most comfortable working on.
What happens in Counselling?
Counselling provides an objective perspective of whatever you talk about, which often helps you see your problems from an outsider’s perspective. We may also discuss how the difficulties in your life affect your daily functioning, and explore alternative ways of thinking about these issues.
I have funds available in my Medical Aid, can I use that to pay for the sessions?
No. Payment for sessions are the responsibility of the client, paid before the session begins.
If you would like a reimbursement from your Medical Aid, it is your responsibility to submit your invoice to the Medical Aid.
I am not crazy, do I still need counselling?
The counselling I offer is for people who are experiencing a lot of situational pressure and stress, and feel like it is making them crazy, not that they are crazy. Being under huge amounts of stress and pressure often makes people feel ‘out of control’. Many of my clients come for counselling to get back in the driving seat of their lives, so that they are no longer controlled by the emotions and turmoil which stress can create.
As a Registered Counsellor, I have many counselling skills, but I am not a Psychologist. If you suffer from clinical anxiety or depression (you have been diagnosed by a professional), or any other psychological disorder, I will have to refer you to a Psychologist, who is qualified, trained and experienced in helping people with such difficulties.
I am angry. Will Anger Management sessions take this anger away?
Many people feel that their anger is out of control, and makes them do and say things which they regret later. The kind of anger management which I use does not erase or obliterate your anger. It helps you to get an understanding of what is causing this anger, how to notice when it is starting to get serious, and how to diffuse this emotion before it gets to the point that it controls your actions.
I believe that anger is an integral part of the human experience. From my experience, anger is often used to cover up negative feelings, such as rejection, fear, and frustration. People often try to block out their anger, which results in them blocking out a range of other emotions, including happiness. My method of anger management provides a safe space where my clients are allowed to express their full range of emotions, which often lowers their anger levels.
What is the difference between Relationship Counselling and Sexuality Counselling?
Relationship counselling focuses on the general dynamics within the relationship. Often, but not always, this counselling process focuses on communication skills, conflict resolution and helping the partners in the relationship get a clearer understanding of what they expect out of the relationship, as well as what is expected of them.
Sexuality counselling focuses on the sexual and intimate aspects of life. This can be done with a couple or an individual. It often, but not always, focuses on how your sexuality affects your life, positively and negatively. There are so many different reasons for seeking sexuality/intimacy counselling, that it is hard to say here what typically happens during such sessions.
How is Sexuality Counselling different?
Sexuality Counselling is a counselling process which focuses on your Sexuality. Sexuality is discussed in an open, non-judgemental manner, and your difficulties are discussed. The feelings, thoughts and sensations related to these difficulties are explored.
Often, I will give my clients homework which focuses on ways that they can learn to pleasure themselves, and their partners if necessary, if the reason for seeking counselling is pleasure related.
Do you get naked during Sexuality Counselling?
NO! There will not be any nudity from me or you during counselling. This is a professional counselling environment, where everyone is appropriately clothed.
Do you touch, or have sex with your sexuality clients?
NO! There is no touching of any kind during the sessions.
I usually shake hands with my clients when they arrive for their session, as a form of greeting. That is the sum total of the physical contact between my clients and myself.